I survived a potentially deadly car crash this past Tuesday morning. Everything happened in slow motion, I saw it coming, felt the impact and there was nothing I could do other than pray to God to take care of my son. I thought to myself: "This is it." I honestly didn't think I would survive.
But God has different plans for me. Either that or He's just not ready for me to sit at His table in His house. I'll admit, I'm a handful... Or my prayer was heard and He thought I was the best person to take care of Dayton. Whatever His reason is, I am a grateful servant.
|Glen seeing the car damage for the first time|
|Back driver's side door... where Dayton would have sat...|
|The passenger side door... I must have blacked out here, because I don't remember how this happened; not that takes TALENT!|
Oh, and I made the news... http://winnipeg.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20120410/wpg_broadway_sherbrook_crash_120410/20120410/?hub=WinnipegHome
As faithful as I am to bringing awareness to autism (by the way, did you know the whole month of April is AUTISM AWARENESS month? That's why you'll be seeing more autism related poems this month on Autism Diva Help.), my mind was NOT on autism...
A parent with a child on the autism spectrum pretty much lives, breathes, eats, digests, drinks and sleeps autism. We read books on the subject, go to coffee with other parents of children on the autism spectrum for support, check out facebook autism pages, research autism on the internet, look for autism news, head to doctor and specialist appointments, school meetings and behavioural or psychologist appointments, wait in pharmacies for our kid's prescriptions, etc... We learn a whole new vocabulary relating to autism behaviour, therapy and diets, etc... We really are in a different world from the average parent.
This last Tuesday morning, just before 9:30am, the very last thing on my mind was autism. I know, right? Hard to believe the Diva strayed from her obsession!
My mind was on Dayton. Not Dayton with autism, not Dayton with OCD, not Dayton with ADHD, not Dayton's global delays and his IEP or ODD, his wait watch and wonder therapy, his child psychologist appointment this coming week, or his latest report card showing black on white just how far behind he is from the rest of his grade 4 class... My mind was simply on Dayton, my beloved son. Dayton, the air I breathe, the beautiful sunshine in my life, Dayton who saved my life a few times already in his short life. Dayton, the reason I get up every morning, Dayton, the reason I'm alive. His smile, his eyes, his sense of humour, his dimpled cheek... I love him so much!!!
Autism or no autism, I cherish my son. I can not imagine my life without him.
The car accident literally knocked me out. When I came to, all I thought was Dayton. And panic ceased my body and mind, and I screamed out his name, thinking he should have been sitting in the car with me. I screamed at the paramedics to find my son, shoved at the fire men trying to rescue me from my car (they had to cut my driver's side door open to get me out), until someone asked me if Dayton could possibly be in school???
Yes, yes, I remember him taking the school bus and waving an embarrassed good bye to me... You know the one where he's trying to please me, but not wanting his friends to see him love his mom, because that's just NOT cool.
OK, fine. The Diva lost her mind temporarily, that's not the first time and it certainly won't be the last. Knowing my babe was safe, I allowed the firemen to ease my body out of the vehicle, put the stupid neck brace on after lying my body on their uncomfortable board to ensure my spine was aligned and then off to the hospital.
I kept asking the fireman who calmed me down at the accident to call Glen or call Dayton's school to make sure Dayton was there and safe, and to get Glen to call someone to pick Dayton up from school in case I wasn't home on time. Finally, my rescuer called Glen, and I could relax... Dayton would be taken care of and I could just relax my body. What a huge mistake that was... That's when the pain really hit me... But it was all right, as long as I got to see my babe again, I would take all the pain in the world.
I haven't stopped cuddling with my son. I don't care how much he doesn't like to be touched or hugged, I'm not letting go. I'm loving my son, and no one can stop me, not even Autism.
Consider yourselves hugged,